Talking about STIs can be difficult, and even more so when it comes to telling a partner or ex you have one. Public Health English found that out of 2,000 respondents, 56% and 43% of men and women respectively found it hard to talk about them with their friends. However difficult it may be, letting those you have a sexual relationship with know you have a sexually transmitted infection is important for everyone involved. Here are some ways Dr Sarah Kayat suggests to help break the news to your ex or partner.
Protect to Prevent
Of course, the ideal would be to prevent STIs and thus eliminate the need to tell to your ex or partner that you have one. Remember to go into sexual experiences with a condom, especially as forms of contraception like the pill don’t protect either partner from infections.
Rates of STIs are high, with 420,000 diagnoses made in 2016 alone. There are also more cases of gonorrhoea that’s drug-resistant, and continually growing rates of syphilis. Preparation and prevention are key to reducing the STI risk.
Make the Important Decision
The first step is acknowledging the need and responsibility you have to tell your partner or ex. They have a right to know, and it’s important they do so that they can be tested themselves.
Thanks to currently technology, it’s possible to use apps or online resources to send texts anonymously. This will allow you to send a message to let you partner or ex know there is a reason they should consider getting tested for STIs and to suggest they do so without knowing who the message came from.
Getting tested is easier than ever via a sexual health clinic, GP or even at home. Home STI kits in London are available from the likes of https://www.greenwichsexualhealth.org/chlamydia_screening/ to make this process as comfortable and straightforward as possible.
Anonymity – Get Someone Else to Help
If you don’t feel you have the confidence to openly discuss sexually transmitted infections with the other person, then it’s possible to do it anonymously but in a more personalised way than a texting service. Sexual health clinics can often help out here, as many will be able to contact your ex or partner and let them know on your behalf.